As a teacher, Parames is more than just an educator – she is a pillar of strength and a role model to the many students she inspires. But her resilience was truly put to the test when she was diagnosed with breast cancer. From being the one others leaned on, she suddenly had to rely on her own support system. Today, she shares her journey of strength, vulnerability, and recovery.
Can you share a bit more about your journey with breast cancer? How did you first discover it?
I went for my second mammogram in 2016, during which I was diagnosed with Stage 2 ER+ breast cancer. Just two weeks later, I began my first round of chemotherapy – four cycles to start, followed by a mastectomy, and then another four cycles of chemo to complete my treatment.
How has having breast cancer changed your outlook on life?
It was truly life-changing. The experience forced me to reassess my priorities and appreciate the little things more deeply. It brought a renewed focus on health, relationships, self-care and the things that truly matter.
What is the one mantra, quote, or philosophy that you live by?
“The oak fought the wind and was broken, the willow bent when it must and survived.” – Robert Jordan.
This quote speaks to the importance of adaptability and inner strength. My will to survive was deeply rooted in love—for life, for my family, and for the strength to rise above the challenges I faced.
Who are some of the role models and why?
My greatest role model is my late mother. She passed away in 2021 after a 13-year battle with corticobasal ganglionic degeneration (CBDG), a rare form of Parkinsonism. Despite many difficult years, she fought with immense courage and grace. Her resilience taught me invaluable life lessons, which I leaned on during my own cancer journey.
Tell us something about yourself that most people might not know
I am very passionate about dancing. It’s a powerful form of expression that connects me deeply to my emotions and allows me to communicate in ways words cannot. I began learning Bharatanatyam at the age of six, thanks to my mother. Although I took a ten-year break after having my first child, I resumed lessons just before my diagnosis. After recovery, dance became a vital part of my healing – both physically and emotionally. It helped me gently rebuild strength, improve flexibility and balance, and most importantly, regain confidence in my body. It made me feel more in control, more grounded, and capable.
What are some of the biggest lessons you’ve learnt on this journey?
Resilience became my anchor. Cancer pushed me to discover a depth of strength I didn’t know I had. It also taught me the value of the present moment – to cherish time with loved ones, to embrace joy, and to find meaning in the little things.
What advice would you give to other women going through the same journey?
- Lean on your support system: You don’t have to face this alone. Let people in.
- Take it one day at a time: Focus on the present, and celebrate small victories—whether it’s feeling better after a treatment or just getting through a difficult day.
- Find your comfort: Whether it’s music, nature, or hobbies – do what lifts you. These moments of joy are important.
- Stay informed: Knowledge empowers, but it’s okay to take things in slowly. Ask questions. Trust your instincts.
What message would you give to young women about breast cancer screening?
Your health is your responsibility. Regular screenings and early detection can save lives. Be proactive. Get informed. You are your best advocate – be bold, be informed, and never hesitate to take charge of your well-being.
What are your hopes for the future of breast cancer research?
There is so much hope on the horizon. Advances in personalised medicine are promising more targeted, effective treatments with fewer side effects. I believe we are moving toward a future where a breast cancer diagnosis won’t be as frightening – and maybe one day, won’t be frightening at all.
You participated in the “Catwalk for Courage” event earlier this year. Can you share your thoughts about it?
Participating in Catwalk for Courage was powerful. It was more than just an event – it was a statement of solidarity, empowerment and hope. We walked for awareness, for research, and to honour every person affected by breast cancer. It reminded me that our collective strength can make a real difference. Every step taken was a step toward visibility, support and healing.
What were some of the biggest challenges you’ve had to overcome?
I faced extreme fatigue, total hair loss, sensitive skin, and discoloured nails. “Chemo brain” – with its memory lapses and focus issues – was especially tough since I was always an effective multitasker. I coped by:
- Keeping a routine – Using my phone’s calendar and notes app to stay organised.
- Staying Healthy – Eating well, staying hydrated, and working out three times a week to boost brain function.
Emotionally, it was overwhelming. With no family history of cancer, I was in shock. I worried how it would affect my loved ones. I was anxious about my treatment, the side effects, and the future. But I drew strength from my mother’s example, and my husband was my unwavering rock – his quiet support and optimism gave me clarity and helped carry me through.
What do you consider your biggest achievement so far?
Surviving breast cancer and reclaiming my life is my greatest achievement and a monumental victory. It gave me a new sense of purpose – to advocate for awareness, support others, and be a voice fo early detection. Every day, I live with passion, and the drive to make a difference.
How did your breast cancer journey affect your family?
It brought us closer than ever. My children, who were just 6 and 9 at the time, initially struggled with fear and uncertainty. So, I involved them in the journey – they witnessed my treatments, my strength, and my healing. It gave them resilience and empathy. My husband, always by my side, provided emotional strength and practical help. We got through it as a team, one day at a time.
How did breast cancer change your professional life?
It made me re-evaluate everything. Health and well-being became my top priorities, prompting me to transition to part-time work so that I could focus more on life outside the classroom. The experience gave me a new lens on what truly matters and taught me to approach both my career and life with greater clarity, purpose, and balance. It also strengthened my ability to navigate challenges with confidence.
Whether you are going through a similar journey, or supporting someone who is – know that you’re not alone. At Solis, Club Solis, a support group specially for breast cancer patients and survivors, offers a safe space for sharing and support. If you are unsure about any abnormal breast symptoms, don’t be afraid to seek help. Our surgeons are here to support you, every step of the way.
